“There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.”
Whether it’s in dating, work, social situations, or any other part of life, this much is clear: nobody likes getting rejected. It bruises the ego, it makes you feel unworthy, and it just sucks.
Yet… I’m starting to realize that getting rejected is an essential part of an interesting and active life. It definitely hasn’t been easy for me, but over time I’ve started to think about rejection as a very good thing.
When Do You Get Rejected?
Think about it. There are only a few select situations in life where we face rejection. We get rejected when:
- We’re taking chances
- We’re trying new things
- We’re pushing past our comfort zones
- There is opportunity for a reward
- We’re facing our fears
Rejection Means We’re Trying to Achieve Something.
The possibility of a rejection only arises when there is a chance that we could fail. And where there’s a chance to fail, there’s also a chance at winning.
If you’re asking someone out on a date, they could reject you. But they could also say “Yes.”
If you’re asking your boss for a raise, they could reject you. Or they could also say “How much?”
Getting rejected means that we’re pushing ourselves forward, taking new chances, and trying new things. Because of that, when we get rejected, even if it’s BRUTAL, it’s just a sign that we’re on the right track.
How to Avoid Rejection Entirely
But of course, if you really want to avoid rejection entirely… then all you have to do is this:
- Never take a chance
- Never try anything new
- Always stay inside of your comfort zone
- Be okay with getting fewer rewards in life
- Never face your fears
Sounds pretty boring, right?
Every time that you get rejected, something in your brain should click.
Try saying to yourself. “Oh, I got rejected! That must mean I’m pushing forward with my life, facing my fears, and taking chances! Good for me.”
Of course, that’s easier said than done. Rejection still hurts. Sometimes a lot.
But I truly think that we should start seeing rejection as an ally instead of any enemy. Rejection is simply a guidepost, a sign that we’re pushing ourselves forward, and attempting something.
It’s definitely an ongoing process, but here are some ways that we can try to come to terms with this new philosophy on rejection.
- Think of rejection as a good thing. It’s simply a sign that you’re on your own personal path of freedom, happiness, and success.
- Don’t take rejections personally. It’s not always about you, and even if it is, you’re not doing yourself any favors by dwelling on it.
- Appreciate and thank yourself for taking a chance, and pushing through fear and trying to expand yourself
- Learn what you can from it
Do you have any other thoughts on how to deal with getting rejected? Do you have any personal experiences that have driven this point home for you?
Let me know in the comments below!